Have you ever felt so angry with yourself because you couldn’t finish up everything you wanted to do? How about those times when you seem not to meet up with commitments made to others?
If you’ve had any of such experiences, you will agree with me that these experiences can be quite unpleasant. The good news is that this does not have to be so.
How much would you pay if I showed you some simple truths that will enable you to enjoy your relationships more and achieve more?
Well, hold your wallet as I’m about to show you all that for free in this article! Here’s a question to think about?
A man had $50 and needed to pay $30 for his rent and his son’s school fee for $10. His friend needed $7 to buy drugs for his sick child and his neighbor needed $12 to fix his car while his wife needed a new pair of shoe.
So which of these needs was he to meet since they all seem to be important and seeking his attention and he was hoping to save $5 for his family in case of an emergency?
Just like this man, we are often surrounded with different situations that we seemingly have to attend to with the limited resources (especially time and energy) that we have.
One of the root causes of a frustrating life is because of the overwhelming number of activities and relationships we usually try to attend to.
I want to quickly share a few thoughts that will help you look at life from a different perspective and help you attain a significant level of peace and have better impact in your relationships.
Less is More!
Yes. I know you want to make more impact, get more done and nurture meaningful relationships. But you must realize that there’s only so much you can do in time with the resources that you have.
Avoid the time and energy draining activities and relationships that will hinder your progress in investing into your most important relationships and goals.
Stop being ‘nice’.
Yes! You don’t need to be ‘nice’ to everyone. This does not in anyway mean that you shouldn’t be polite but just that you don’t have to be a ‘yes’ person – consenting to every request from everyone or thing asking for your attention. Even when you know you can’t meet up.
This often leaves us with insufficient time to focus on the relationships that are important to us (which requires time and energy to nurture) and even less time to do the things that needs to be done. There are times when you should avoid the temptation of allowing other people drag you into their schedules (that’s why you need your own schedule in the first place.)
You need to own up and take responsibility for your time, its your life.
Stop saying yes to every request, you are only a man not God. Its only God that has promised to be there for us all the time (and I’m glad He is faithful to His word! 🙂 ) I’m not asking you to hold back from investing in people, I’m just saying you should give more.
There are people whose call in the middle of the night wouldn’t be a disturbance to me while there are others who wouldn’t get to speak with me.
You can do all things does not necessarily mean you should do all things (at least not for everyone 😉 ).
Imagine that there are 10 people who need $10 each to solve a serious problem and all you have is $17 and you require $7 for your upkeep leaving you with only $10. What would you rather do? Hand the $10 over to a single person or give the 10 people $1 each? Which one do you think would make more meaning and quality impact?
Streamlining your life has to do with getting rid of activities and relationships that do not help with accomplishing your most important goals and relationships.
Streamlining your life helps you to give the best of yourself to a few people rather than a pinch of yourself to everyone – making no real impact on any.
Streamlining will also help you to build your life around important activities that will lead to the fulfillment of your God given goals and vision for life. (If you don’t have a goal or vision, please stop reading this article and ask God for one NOW.)
Realizing you are not God liberates you from undue pressure to over schedule and the feeling of guilt that comes with not meeting up, allowing you to focus more on nurturing quality relationships in your life and on your most important goals.
So that’s it. Apply those few tips and let me know how much difference it worked for you.
I’ll see you at the top, the bottom is too crowded!
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